December 4th - What was the wisest decision you made this year?
The wisest decision I have made this year is to keep trying at this mothering thing. That sounds really silly, because I don't have a choice as I am a mother and will always be a mother. But, parenting toddler boys is a whole new type of crazy! It is a crazy that has seen me fail many times with my parenting decisions. I lose my cool, I get distracted. I have to work on forgiving myself and there have even been a few times that I have openly apologized to my children. I am so far from perfect but I have had to learn to forgive myself for the mistakes I have made and remember that I get to try again tomorrow. And children are very, very forgiving of their mommy's, which has taught me a huge life lesson in letting go and moving on.
Another big mothering lesson I have learned, is that each of my children are unique and have different wants and needs. I have had to adjust my expectations for each one of them and have even had to adjust my discipline technique for each of them. They respond differently and therefore I need to handle them differently. By figuring out what makes each one of them tick and how best to handle difficult situations with them, everyone is much happier! When I get frustrated with them, instead of getting angry I look into their eyes and see into their soul and it usually helps me calm down quickly and see their little hearts who just need a little redirection, not anger from me.
I have also learned to trust my intuition. God has given us mom's a beautiful gift of intuition. I have learned many times that if I follow my gut, I'm usually right. I may not be parenting my children "by the book" but "my way" works well for our family and so that is what I will keep doing! I still often seek out advice and research things but my heart has always led me in the right direction with the kids.
I love being a mom. It is the best part of my life. But it is also the biggest challenge I have ever faced in life. I am molding human beings right now! Children who I hope will someday grow up and be valuable God-loving members of society. This is no easy task and it sure does take a lot of wisdom and growth in myself to accomplish!